The best way to get your ex back, believe it or not, can be to pretend you don’t care. The underlying reason this works so well is that it causes your ex to question why you don’t care when before you were constantly calling and begging them for a second chance.
I am sure you have seen this theory work in other areas of your life. When you head to a dealership to buy a new car, it’s normal to gear up for the battle, right? You play it cool, pretend you could live without the car, even walk away when the salesman quotes you a ridiculous price. You know those are the strategies for getting the best deal.
If you were to run up to the salesman and tell him how much you absolutely had to have that new car and that you would do anything to be able to take it home right away, you know what would happen? You would pay an arm and a leg for that car. The salesman would have a field day with you and he’d be smiling for a month. The salesman will play on your obvious and urgent desire to have that car and he will milk you for all you are worth.
The same concept applies in regards to the best way to get your ex back. If you are so obviously still interested, he or she has nothing to lose by keeping you hanging on in the background. They know that if something better doesn’t come along, you will still be there, eager to get a second chance.
If you were suddenly not so eager and no longer calling and making desperate attempts to get their attention, they are going to start trying to figure out why. It is human nature to doubt ourselves when someone we thought was interested in us starts showing signs of no longer being interested. It becomes personal. I thought they really liked me? I thought they were waiting for me? Could they have found someone new?
Unfortunately, some people break up with their girlfriend or boyfriend simply to test the relationship. They get a boost to their own ego, and some twisted sense of confirmation, when they know that you are moping around missing them so much.
To exercise the best way to get your ex back, stop calling them and stop trying to reach them. Start going out with your friends again and doing things you know your ex will hear about. While you are waiting for your ex to probe for information on why you no longer seem interested, study up on core relationship skills. Find and build on the skills that will help you build a happier, healthier relationship with your ex.