When you’re dating someone everything is uncertain. You’re dancing with one another on a floor of insecurity. Girls normally spend the entire time over-analyzing and driving themselves crazy waiting for conversation where the “C-word” finally comes up. (It’s commitment in case there’s any confusion.) Find out what he’s really saying.
Man Speak: Inside the mind of the man you’re dating. What is he really saying?
He Says: I tried to call you but couldn’t get through.
Man Speak: I didn’t call. I’m not feeling this.
What does this mean for you?: Move on.
He Says: I think we’re better friends.
Man Speak: The sex isn’t that good and I don’t want to do it again.
What does this mean for you?: Move on.
He Says: My parents are having a party. Wanna come?
Man Speak: I really like you. This is getting serious.
What does this mean for you?: Keep riding that train. Just don’t piss off the parents.
He Says: I never got your voicemail (or email).
Man Speak: I got it. I’m just not feeling this.
What does this mean for you?: Move on.
He Says: We’re Dating.
Man Speak: We’re having sex and I’m not ready to commit.
What does this mean for you?: It depends on where you are in the relationship. If it’s early; that’s normal. If it’s been over three months, it’s probably not going to happen.
He Says: Are you still friends with your ex?
Man Speak: Do I need to worry about you dumping me for him?
What does this mean for you?: Looks like this one is on the commitment track. If he does need to worry about your ex, you’re an idiot. Exes are ex for a reason. Keep him there and start something new with this guy.
He Says: I’m busy that night.
Man Speak: I’m going out with another girl.
What does this mean for you?: If he’s not up front about where’s he’s going it’s probably because he doesn’t want you to know.
He Says: It’s not you, it’s me.
Man Speak: It’s you.
What does this mean for you?: This is an easy way to dump you without telling you why.
He Says: I’m totally OK with you having male friends.
Man Speak: I’m not even remotely OK with you having male friends but it’s too early in the relationship to tell you so.
What does this mean for you?: Keep your friends. You’ll have plenty of time to fight about it when you’re in a committed relationship. (Which is where it’s going btw)
He Says: Sorry I dropped off the face of the earth for a while, I’ve been really busy with work.
Man Speak: I got back together with my ex but it just ended and I want to have sex.
What does this mean for you?: This dude is never going to be that into you. He’s just looking for someone to use to get over his ex.
He Says: I might have plans this weekend, let me get back to you.
Man Speak: I’m waiting to see if something better comes along first.
What does this mean for you?: This dude’s just biding his time with you until something better comes along.
He Says: My marriage is basically over.
Man Speak: You do realize, you and I are having an affair. Right?
What does this mean for you?: He’s not going to leave his wife for you. If you’re down with being his mistress, go to town. Otherwise, bail.
He Says: I really like you.
Man Speak: I think I love you but I’m not ready to say it yet.
What does this mean for you?: Good job.
He Says:Any of the following things:
I’m focusing on my career.
I’m not looking for a relationship right now.
I just got out of a bad relationship.
I like being single.
I have too much on my plate at the moment.
I’m interested in someone else.
We make better friends.
I’m dating someone.
You’re going to make some guy really happy one day.
I’m focusing on me right now.
I’m not good enough for you.
I have a lot of stuff to work through before I can get into a relationship.
I’m really busy right now.
Maybe after I finish with xyz project.
I’d make a terrible boyfriend.
Man Speak: I’m just not that into you.
What does this mean for you?: Move on.
Hope this translation helps you figure out what’s going on in your current scenario.