Looking back on my past experience, I ‘d say, asking a teacher for extra help isn’t as simple as it looks, especially when we don’t have quite a good relationship with him or her (the teacher). I had some troubles with my geography teacher before this. I didn’t like her so much, she used to tease, make a fool of me, and scold me for nothing (that was what I thought), but as days pass, I realized I was actually having troubles with myself, she wasn’t to be blame.
I hated her because I needed to find an excuse for my own faults. I couldn’t keep up with her style of teaching, it was actually my fault, I didn’t want to tell her of that problem: I thought it was just a waste of time, I just talked back every time she told me off, but then, who am I to say what she will and will not do, I didn’t even give her a chance to hear about what I think, how can she help me when I didn’t want to speak out? Remembering those times, it makes me feel foolish.
However, fortunately for me, I’ve learned my lesson. Other than that, I’ve learned of some ways I could try to make peace with teachers and have a better relationship with them, which can make me feel more comfortable in talking to them, asks questions and even more, have a friendly conversation with them, improving my relationship with them, hence, my concentrations. Too bad for me, I’ve moved from the school, I didn’t even had the chance to apologize to her, how I regret for being rude to her, well, you know who you are, if you think the teacher I’m talking about is you, please forgive me for all the bad things that I’ve done to you. Anyways, if you’re a student that’s having problems like this, do yourself a favor and follow my tips below on how to have a better relationship with your teacher and eventually makes it easier for you to ask for their help.
1.Think Positive
In everything you or your teacher do, think positive! If your teacher always critic you, it’s most probably because she thinks that’s the best way to make you realize your mistakes.
You must be saying to yourself right now “Oh please, that’s just playing dumb”. You may be right, but, let’s think about it this way, not all people thinks like you, people react to the same situation with different reactions. Example, when people are stuck in a traffic jam, some act as if it’s the worst day of their lives, and some, act in a different way, or as I say it, in a more positive way by making the best of that situation, listening to the radio, have a laugh with their passengers or do anything that they think is useful, instead of banging on the windowsill and horn their car as loud as they can.
You can see from the example how foolish people can be, just by their thoughts. My point here is, when a teacher teases or critic you, don’t act violent, ask them face to face of why they did so, if you’re unhappy with their answer, ask them to stop doing so as it’ll hurt your feelings, I’m pretty sure your teacher Will straight away stop that kind of behavior and will try to find a better solution, this, surely will make you feel better. Positive attitude people, that’s all it takes to reach success.
2.Be Brave
In everything we do, we need to have the courage to act, it’s the same as talking to your teacher, don’t be shy, that’s just playing dumb, when you need something from your teacher, just tell her, you’ve got nothing to lose, just do it, she won’t eat you. She is your teacher anyway, she’ll be happy to help you, as long as you show her respect. Have a talk with her about your performance briefly after class, arrange an appointment with her. If you didn’t get the chance to do so, leave her a note on her desk. As long as she can get your message.
3.Be Polite and Friendly
In wanting to have a good relationship with your teacher, you need to be polite and friendly with him or her. Every teacher in this world likes to help their students, otherwise, why would they ever choose to be a teacher? Make them feel as if your their friend.
4. Commitment
When she has set you a study appointment with her, be committed, be on time! This will show her that you’re serious about your studies and not making a fool of her. Extra help means extra work, do it, hold on to it, and hopefully you’ll succeed. In addition, you’ll get her confidence and respect.
5. Keep Yourself Monitored
To keep yourself from straying away, ask your friend and your family monitor you, ask them to make sure you finish your home works and your ‘extra’ works on time. This will be quite annoying at first, but, imagine all the success you could achieve by doing this.
6. Thank Your Teacher.
After she has helped you, she could really use some thanks from you, show her how thankful you are for her help. This will make her happy in helping you, and makes her even happier for being appreciated. We can see here how a simple word of appreciation can make a person happy.
I think that’s about it from me. Let’s revise what we’ve learned here shall we? First, in anything you do, think positive, that’s how you can succeed. Second, be brave, don’t be shy to talk to your teacher. Third, be polite and friendly with your teacher, give her a sincere praise, after all, she deserves it after all her hard work in helping her students.
Fourth, be committed in your studies, be on time! Fifth, keep yourself monitored by the people you love. Last but not least, thank your teacher, she’s helped you, so, why don’t you thank her in a form of returning her a favor. So, it’s up to you, make your decision, decide what you want to do, apply it or leave it. The choice is up to you. Have a good life.