One of the biggest misconceptions women have is that all people are just full of confidence, are completely comfortable, and have an easy time picking up women, even though this stereotype represents probably less than half of the male population. The interesting thing about this notion is that women in a way are undermining themselves; I can go on record to say that there are a lot more women who have both greater levels of confidence and self-belief, as compared to men. However, moving back to the topic of men, there are many men who just do not have the confidence needed to succeed in life, let alone meet women.
Work with your mirror:)
These types of men have extremely low self-esteem and feel terribly about their ability to do anything successful in their lives. They spend most of their time daydreaming or thinking about all the beautiful women they have come across over their lifetime, but never really having the courage to do anything about it. However, this article will try to help these shy men, by providing them with some very easy to follow tips that will surely change the way they think about themselves. Stop thinking of yourself as not being good enough; rather try to believe in yourself. Forget about all the stuff you have heard over the years about your shortcomings, even though you might not actually have any. Try to be positive and man up. You do not need a shrink or anyone to talk to because shyness is actually a natural occurrence that can be easily treated. Once you are able to look into the mirror and appreciate what you see, then you are only a couple of steps away from breaking the ice and meeting beautiful women left and right.
No Bars
Firstly, do not ever try to pick up women at bars, this only works well in the movies. Bars are probably the worst and last place you will find a woman that you can actually think about dating. They are loud, dirty, and smoky and have many drunken people roaming all over the place. In addition, we all have a good idea of how excessive alcohol can impair our senses, which is one reason why so many men wake up the next morning and say to themselves, “Did I really bring this girl home?” However, what you can do is join some clubs, such as book clubs, movie clubs or sports clubs. Alternatively, maybe joining French or cooking class might be more to your liking. These are great places to find someone you can actually date. However, keep in mind that you need to choose a club or class that is of interest in you, otherwise this method will end up something like the bar experience.
Can you be friends?
Another important tip that a shy person like you needs is to keep in mind is that not every girl you meet should be thought of as your girlfriend. Instead, take your time and develop a friendship with her so you can get to know her somewhat better. Eventually, a certain level of comfort will be developed between you two, which will make it easier for you to make your move and the element of trying to impress her disappears. Trying to impress someone never really works because you usually have to act like someone you are not. Be yourself and you will see how things get better and in no time your shyness will turn into full on confidence.